Seize the day

It’s easy to be a wannabe. It doesn’t take much effort. It’s like active day dreaming, like reading a book or watching a movie and cheering those heroic moments which convince you that you can be a romantic and the brave heart walking through the valley. But it ends there, because a wannabe does nothing more. The thought is grand enough because doing the real thing takes guts and throws that heroic notion out of the window. The brave heart in the valley has no time to think about how grand his act is because he’s fighting off wolves and snakes to stay alive. A wannabe only waits for the next such moment to reappear so he can cheer the loudest and go away with stars in his eyes. A wannabe is so temporary and I sometimes see the wannabe in me. I have always cheered for those who have made the best use of time. I easily share stories about them on dinner tables and coffee shops, but I have often seen such opportunities slip by me. I’ve watched them pass by and I pretend not to notice. I’m too busy pretending.

I recently had the opportunity to spend almost a month with my teenaged brother. It was rare because it was outside home for the first time for a long stretch. We had grown up without realizing, especially because I had been away from home during my school and college years. The collateral for being away is always family first and you have to work doubly hard at keeping relationships alive, or again only praise those who have done it and flagellate yourself for failing. The distance can easily come from behind and make strangers of friends.

Younger people can teach you a lot more than you expect, or even want. So often, the ego comes up as defense and you find it much easier to talk from a higher position than eye to eye. With teenage years marked as the ‘troubled’ years, it’s simpler to give teenagers the-been-there-done-that dress down. Few twenty-something people I’d advised reminded me that the advice I had given them was, with due respect, worthless. And so I tried to work on the relationship instead. I kept reminding myself of my teenage years and tried to be plain honest. I kept fighting the urge to slip into lecturing mode because it’s also an inherent family trait. I took advantage of the foreign land and imagined it as an adventure with my young brother. In a first, I actually showed interest in his life and became interested in it. Along the way I learned that if the relationship is genuine, then working on the harder parts become easier. That if the relationship has a foundation based on trust and mutual respect, there’ll probably be no need to ask too many questions.

My claim is not that I found a formula or that I succeeded. It’s still a work in progress but in understanding my brother I learned more about the value of relationships and in the process, I changed for the better. Most of all, I had the time of my life and felt the freedom of honesty. Pretense is unnecessary burden.

I suppose I could say that I seized the day on this occasion, and it made me see the importance of doing the same for other opportunities that come. One thing I’m confident about is that while working on relationships, a neutral land could be better. Getting away from familiar territory to somewhere new adds a breath of fresh air.

I wish there could be less wannabes and more doers. Maybe then we’ll have a little more courage to step outside.


Time is really the thief. Now when I chat online with friends across the globe, they also share stories of their children with videos of them walking or dancing and the like. These kids were born in the distance and to some of them I am the unseen uncle from a land far away. In other words, a figment of their imagination.

As a kid, I would look up at young cousins in their mid-20s and think they knew all about life and the world. In family gatherings I would hover around the older cousins and mimic in earnest whatever they’d do, much to their annoyance. The older men were my heroes. I was the over smart kid with the big head and quick answers.

At over 30 now, I look at my friend’s children and sometimes wonder who pulled a fast one on me. My friend on the computer screen looks younger than ever before with his new haircut, but they say we are all aging. I suppose the distance assists in making one forget that other lives have a timeline too. Here on the Far East, thousands of miles away from the many lives I know, I am on my own timeline. I become my own world, my own hero, my own schedule trumps everything else and I fool myself that am still young for anything serious. I am long past that barrier where a young me would have looked up to me for moral support. I’m not sure I’d really look up to the person I am now.


A few months ago, I was speaking to a few of my countrymen during a programme held to commemorate a traditional festival. The occasion gave me a chance to bond with a few folks from my hometown and laugh at esoteric jokes. Let me add that as a basic speaker of a foreign language, translated jokes really don’t work and there’s an inexplicable release when laughing at jokes in your native tongue. I shared with them an experience in the run up to the weeks before I left home, older folk would come to give their much coveted wisdom but some of them came to say that they were looking forward to what I could ‘give back’ to my people. Sure, I wanted to give back and I told myself I could not dare forget how unabashedly I told many seniors I was in this to serve. However, what stayed with me through those meetings was the stress given to a particular tribe, the fear that other tribes are leading and the desire to ‘have our say’. That day I shared my conviction on how we needed to shed such a mindset if we really talk about leadership in the first place. That in a place where there is so much of diversity, any form of leadership cannot be talked about without listening to others first and taking them along the road. To be still thinking like tribes in competition is being stuck in a warp zone.

So I tell youngsters and friends from my home town that if education makes us go back down that road, we haven’t really progressed at all. Yes, I am proud of who I am, the tribe I belong to and my roots. But make no mistake, fist-fighting with other tribes for a misplaced cause does not make one any more loyal or patriotic. We have to resolve to stop feeding our children with this mindset of competition between tribes. We have to resolve to stop telling stories where we say ‘he/she was from that tribe’, no matter how innocuous it may seem. So much of bad blood is carried through generations because some people just don’t keep their mouth shut. It’s like that saying, you want to bury the hatchet but remember where you buried the hatchet. We often say we want younger generations to remember and learn from history, but we cloak in so much of bitterness and without a sense of forgiveness that the bad blood is carried in a new host.

Unless we firmly resolve to change the way we have behaved for so long, I’m afraid we’ll either have a hot –blooded generation quick to act but without measured thinking, or we’ll inherit a passive generation with no passion or motive at all. But the key is that balance. We must have young blood infused with considered fresh thinking, the kind of youngsters that would make others sit up and take notice and even doubt- only because it is so unconventional.

I am reminded of how our Lord Jesus ate and drank with ‘sinners’ and tax collectors much to the indignation of the Pharisees. It was so unconventional that the so called holy men of that day just couldn’t take it. We need to go back and sit with those we have called sinners and love them and ask for forgiveness. But that wouldn’t happen when we are prone to only wear our Sunday best and take the front pews to show others how holy we are.

The Korea I see


One of the fascinating things about Korea, I find, is an ability to create something out of nothing. The more I travel and see the country, the more I realize that when pushed into a corner you’ve got to be creative and forge your path of survival.

Some weeks ago, I drove up north to a place called Pocheon Art Valley. It is an artificial tourist spot carved out of an abandoned granite quarry, complete with a small pond, an amphitheatre and exhibition rooms. There was a long queue for the monorail up to the art valley, most Koreans with kids hand in hand. When I was done surveying the place, I remembered the frustrated time I had searching my way out of a man-made stone maze in Jeju. That, too, was just another recreational space created out of nothing for the fun loving Koreans who needed a place to hold hands and walk into. That I disliked these fake places is another story but I appreciate the effort behind such spaces. And no, I don’t like teddy bear museums.

Further north was the Sanjeong lake. Originally built as a reservoir for water supply in 1925, this lake had a pension of Kim Il-sung when it was briefly in North Korean hands. Apparently one reason was that the lake was shaped like an inverted Korean peninsula which inspired him while making war plans. I felt a bit better seeing the green mountains surrounding the lake even though it was crowded and loud announcements blasted off the speakers in the amusement park. Weekends in Korea can be tricky, with people from the cities and towns ever eager to get more breathing space. So the riverside parks in Seoul, the mountains near Seoul and the nearby touristy places are full of loyal Koreans on weekends.

I recall one trip to Bukhansan National Park, north of Seoul. At one rest point on the way to the summit, I looked around to savor the view and saw people climbing the mountains from all directions. When I reached the summit, I had to jostle for a space to have lunch. On another trip to Seoraksan National Park, I reached at 11 a.m. and was told the reservations for the cable car went till 5:00 pm. The Korean hiking gear is another story.

Without fail, every trip outdoors reminds me of home and I am thankful for that. Imagine my surprise when I first found proper toilets on a hiking trail. Public toilets are ubiquitous in Korea and I’m reminded that it’s a mark of progress. Most places have provisions for the differently-abled too. I suppose it shouldn’t be too difficult to make proper public toilets at least beginning with the many small towns closer home, even on the paid model like the ones in Delhi. It’s so basic and yet taken for granted most of the time.

Roughly 50 million people live in South Korea, with about 15 million in Seoul and Busan combined. Korea is only slightly larger than the state of Bihar in my country area wise, so one can drive from the west coast to the east coast in about five hours or less. I took a drive to the Gangneung on the east coast via Daegwallyeong and Odaesan National Park. It’s a beautiful drive up through the mountains of Gangwon-do and down as the valley gives way to the sea. I had to stand in queue to see the famous touristy sheep farm along the way. The sea from Gyeongpo beach was serene, beautiful and almost full of promises. It wasn’t July so it was less crowded but I got the peace and quiet I wanted, away from the city. The beach front was clean and the restaurants filled with customers even though it wasn’t peak season. These people knew how to enjoy. This is the same spirit that runs across the country – whether it’s a beachfront seafood joint, a quaint café in a corner somewhere, the streets in Itaewon and Gangnam, makgeolli on a mountain top, acoustics on a Hongdae street, silence beside the Han, the list goes on. Koreans know how to enjoy and this translates into various efforts both at personal and government level. At many places, I have been handed down two or three maps to a place. One would be a standard map of the city, another would depict famous restaurants and hotels, and still another map would be a cartoon sketch showing the famous places in and around the city. I even like how, on a hike, am handed a map on entry showing various trails and routes to take. There’s no question of getting lost.

To welcome tourists, the basic things need to get covered and Korea does that well. From seemingly small things like maps to communication to accommodation to transportation to advertisements, Korea gives insights on how to sell even if there may not be much. After all, the country has had an increasing rate of foreign tourists with over 11 million inbound tourists in 2012.

I wish more politicians and policy makers would come and observe Korea a little more, between meetings and short forays into Namdaemun and Insadong. On a recent visit by a lawmaker from the North-east, I desperately made my pitch on how we can learn and sell our beautiful country better. Because it’s no secret, India does have the goods and I can’t help but beam as I compare when I travel abroad. But we need to do so much more, and here we can take a leaf out of the Korean book. They do extremely well with less. The problem is we don’t know how much we have. It’s a problem of gratefulness.

Sojourn II

I am home walking the familiar streets where I grew up. A year is nothing in the time scale and this is not the first time I have been away from home for a year. Yet it’s a bit different. Adaptability is always something that I have taken pride in, given the fact that I have been in and out of home since fourteen. But my father tells me, adaptability is not only being able to go out and mingle in different places with people from different nationalities. He says it is also the ability to come back to your roots and realize that you have come home. That no matter what I have seen and done, I should go back to my town without feeling uneasy and be able to laugh with the old man from my village when he laughs.

The change is drastic. Seoul has its high rises, automated everything and busy traffic on its good roads. One of the larger metropolitan cities of the OECD world, over 10 million people move around the city and the energy can be felt daily. The city draws Koreans and expats to restaurants, bars and pubs weekend after weekend, and it is quite true that one can be in Seoul for years and know nothing more of Korea besides Seoul. I am one of the nagging voices, having tried to convince my friends that the Korea I love is outside the metropolis and that the adventure lies beyond. I am scared that I might become one of the many who have been sucked into the city life with no desire to breathe the cool mint-fresh air of the mountains and the countryside. You’ll get used to it, they all say.

I took a walk with my brother down memory lane to the first house I remember. It still stands, not too far from the house we live in now. We walk to the front of the house and laugh, instantly recalling things we did. The cricket pitch now looks very small and what I thought was a big garden wasn’t really big. In fact, there’s a big building both in front and back, hemming in the small government quarters I once called home. As I meet my uncles, aunts and cousins, I feel the impact of time and that one year has done quite a bit to relationships. I wouldn’t want me to slide from laughter to a formal smile to just a nod. I know the onus is on me to keep relationships alive and well. Life is about relationships after all, and that firm relationships give a sense of confidence and add to one’s identity.

I wander around Kohima with gratefulness in my heart- that after years of being out of home, I can still come back and not feel like a stranger, that I can meet an old friend in the street and laugh at old jokes, that I am equally at home even if I don’t have the comforts of Seoul, that I can visit old neighbours and talk with them over tea in steel cups of old. Most of all, I am grateful there’s no pretense. I suppose that in writing this, I am trying to remind myself again that it is I who must make that extra effort to seize each day, each moment.

After a year in the metropolis, I have come to admire simplicity even more. I am convinced that the true measure of a person can be seen when the comforts of this world don’t disable the ability to live meaningfully with less. Having more may not be bad but wanting more, forgetting others who have less or who don’t have is surely the edge of the cliff. These visits home remind of that. It reminds me of my roots and what we didn’t have so that I can be grateful for what I have now, without holding on to it because it really isn’t mine to hold.

“…for apart from me, you can do nothing.” John 15:5  


Southern comfort

The funny thing about unfit men sprinting is that they feel they’re very fast.

In my mind, I was Bolt but I was puffing and panting like the fat boy in school whose punishment was a jog to the school gate and back. This was Daejeon, where the three of us had to catch a train in another nearby station because we had got on the wrong train. We tried to run to the station but to no avail. We knew we couldn’t make it and stopped short of entering the station, breathing heavily and watching our train go by in the distance.

My friend summed up that brief slow motion run in two words, ‘That hurt’.

We had taken the early train to Mokpo in South Jeolla Province. Mokpo is the capital of the province and is located at the southwestern tip of the Korean peninsula. First impression said this was a sleepy coastal town with laid back citizens whose main occupation would be farming and fishing. After all, the Jeolla province is considered the food bowl of Korea. We were eager to hit the beach as soon as we had checked into our hotel, but the ‘beach’ in Mokpo is a small strip of sand. I realised later on that Mokpo has no beach because it was primarily a port town. The ferry terminals and numerous jetties dotting the harbor was proof. Apparently, Mokpo was an important port during the Japanese occupation and served as an important midway between Japan and China. Further back in time, the famed Admiral Yi Sun-sin would use Mokpo as an important naval base while fending off the Japanese armada. A quiet town it was, much like its simple son, the former President Kim Dae-Jung who needs no introduction.

We checked in to the old Shinan Hotel, a straight block of concrete like it had been transported from North Korea. I recalled a trip to Uzbekistan and my initial shock in Tashkent, seeing all the uniform grey buildings. It was my first sense of what USSR would’ve looked like and how communism reflected on man-made structures. The hotel lobby was crowded- a wedding I guessed, because there were many women in hanbok. I wanted to get out and breathe the air that came from the sea, the freshness that came in stops, bringing wishes into my head. We spent some time watching the coast outside our hotel, strong gusts blowing waves right where we stood, and we were glad to be away from the noise in Seoul.

Heading to the main ferry terminal, we decided to eat at a local joint before boarding the next ferry to Oedaldo Island. The southern part of the Korean peninsula is dotted with hundreds of islands, many of them known to have pristine and quiet beaches. Mokpo is also the gateway to Dadohae National Maritime Park, the largest national park in Korea. That most of the people were in shorts and sandals made me uneasy- I had clearly failed to do my homework. It was much, much warmer.

The ferry ride to Mokpo was something else. Quiet at the top level, we drank Cass and ate seedless oranges watching the gulls play with the food we threw at them. There is something about the sea, really. There’s something so different and indescribable, especially when you get used to being in a city with crowds. Oedaldo Island is about thirty minutes away from Mokpo and it’s an island popular for tourists, with a small water park done up in season. This time around, however, it was abandoned except for the few residents. We took a walk around the lighthouse and the beach, and rested by the few hanok houses facing the coast. Seeing little children played by the swings in the front garden, I wondered how they’d grow up and fall in love with each other without knowing they had been so close all along.

Conversations can be fueled by the coast and we did just that, talking about life and enjoying nature till our ferry returned. We then headed downtown to the newer part of Mokpo for dinner and then kicked back at a local bar before a late night walk along the sea front promenade. Once could see hints of spring early in this part of the country.

After eight months, I’m convinced that there are two kinds of Koreans- the ones from Seoul and the adjoining areas and the ones from outside Seoul. If one were to argue and say that I noticed the fisher folk in Mokpo alone and not the youth downtown, I’d say I’ve seen the nightlife in Jeju, Sokcho, Jeonju, Busan and Mokpo. They are very different and maybe it will take some time to really explain what I mean. My fondness for this country has been growing and I’m certain that my heart lies in the Korean countryside – where ordinary people go about their daily simple routines, where the air is fresh, where there’s a lot of green, where there’s peace and quiet, and where there’s honesty and enthusiasm at serving a weikuk-saram who can manage a smattering of hanguel.

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Before sunrise ~ a short story

On a snowy February winter evening, he broke her heart. And his own.


He first met her for dinner with a mutual friend one cold evening. He’d not expected that she’d come to see him at his work place, much less see him at all. As he began climbing down the porch, he was glad to see a lady waiting in the distance. It had been a while since such gifts had come his way. Her face was peach, fair and rounded with red splashed on her cheeks because of the harsh winter breeze. Hints of the cold showed on her red lips and her eyelashes tried to hold back tears. She was teary eyed because of the cold. He had never met anyone like that.

Three days later, he found himself unable to focus in class thinking of her. She said she’d be waiting in the lobby and he sensed she’d be early. He replayed her in his mind, the things she said when they first met, the way her confidence made him uneasy, the way she made fun of his china and his equipped kitchen with the empty refrigerator and the low fat milk. He remembered how she shut him up by saying the perfect sentences and how she walked around like a little girl in his living room. She didn’t dress like the others, he noticed. She wore something different and unexpected but carried herself well in a way he hadn’t seen for long. Only later did he realize he had shut up in surprise the whole time.

This time she prayed. He didn’t forget how she surprised him by asking him to pray before their first meal together. He felt ashamed for not having said grace before many of his meals, but glad that she knew what came first even in seemingly small things. She was a music student, a pianist who practiced relentlessly for perfection. She de-stressed by swimming twenty-five laps early mornings at the neighbourhood pool and she sought out the depths within her by painting. She taught music on Saturdays and spent Sundays in church, interpreting the sermon and leading worship. She was right out of a book.

As they ate their sandwiches, he found it hard to resist looking at her, wanting to catch every word she said. She told him she loved mushroom soup served in that place and that the teacher she’d greeted on her way in often was often seen drunk. He liked how she tugged at his wristwatch and told him she hadn’t enough time. He hadn’t felt as good as he felt having her by his side on the walk back to her music class.


There was silence in the car at first. She leaned back on her seat and refused to look at him. He’d said he would take her to an exhibition by a famous painter but a meeting had kept him at bay. When he finally reached her, she’d waited for over an hour and her eyes had welled up with tears, standing outside on the open street. He gave her his coat and drove her to her house, at her insistence. She later told him that when angry, she’d stop talking or start crying. She was disappointed for having waited for long and he was speechless, fumbling with words not sure of what he was really saying even as he tried to reason. The silence soon gave way as he sang a song for her, one of the few out-of-the-box things he knew, and explained random things. He drove slowly, not wanting to reach too soon fearing this would be his last time. Somewhere in between the silences, she touched his hand and said she forgave him and that it was okay. He felt a blood rush as he felt her soft hands on top of his, and with his eyes on the road, he felt her eyes on him.

She took him to a park behind her house. They hadn’t had dinner this night because they’d been making up and had lost appetite for everything but each other. She took him to places she’d walk to frequently, little corners in the park she claimed her own and told him how special it was to visit those places with another for the first time. She reached for his arm and held it with both hands, just the way he loved. He’d always felt that when a woman held a man like that, she was claiming him for herself and that he made her secure.  As they walked they talked about life, their faith, their insecurities, their hurts, their hopes, their dreams and what they liked in each other and in other things. The silences, when they came, were filled with the gentle breeze and the warmth with which they held each other. The park was empty, closing for the day but it didn’t matter. He didn’t know where the path led but it didn’t matter either.

Later, he’d distinctly remember the way she played with his small hands and kissed him on the shoulder. He was drawn by the way she looked at him and smiled, her lips curling upwards unsettling the peach cheeks. He’d recall how she touched the frown on his forehead and tell him not to think so hard and so far. He’d recall her spontaneity and how she had walked ahead backwards, facing him, in the park that night. He’d recall the way she laughed and agreed how bad he was at phone calls. He loved the way she complained about him.

On the quiet, lone drive back from the park at midnight, he smelled of her- the smell of fresh flowers on a cold winter night and the warmth of her lips on his. She turned back to look at him before the last bend home, and that look stayed. Somewhere behind, the songs they sang together on their first drive played on loop.


He wrestled with his thoughts as reality soon came to take these dreams away. He knew there was this perfect moment, an opportunity to get to know someone from a culture unlike his own and a chance to go deeper into something he didn’t know. They had entirely different upbringings and he knew an adventure lay in there somewhere. But he saw the faces of the ones he loved at home, the faces of the people he made promises to, the faces of the elders he knew and the numerous faces that had warned him of foreign lands. He was from a small town and he knew they’d reject him as one of their own, that’d he’d forever be an illustration that elder’s would give their sons around fireplace meals on chilly nights. He had promised to be loyal to the call of home and in his head pictured what he thought was ideal. He was scared and feared too many. It wore him down and he convinced himself that there was nothing but hurt down that road with her. That it was impossible and to begin now would mean love and much more hurt. He was, as she said, too organized. He knew he’d fall and he knew she knew it too.

On that winter evening, weary and confused, he prayed and mustered up the courage to face her.  And to walk away from the best thing he had had in a long while, because he couldn’t explain the restlessness in his heart.


What Winter said

As the sun sets over my window, the recent words of a friend come to mind. That I must continue to write otherwise what I have will rust. There should be no excuse for the two months of silence though I can come up with many just to get by.  I must say, however, that I fulfilled the emphatic declaration in my writings last year.  That the inability to write emanates largely from the absence of good reading. That the lack of reading affects the way a person speaks. That it finally affects a person’s confidence. While this should not be considered the primary goal of reading, that it should be purely for the joy of reading and the way it opens worlds inside a person’s head, it is an important by-product which can be taken for granted. Into my eighth month in government service abroad, I am able to see the importance of calm, composed, effective and brief expression. To be able to make one’s point in a few words, bolstered with the necessary facts, is why one needs to read more and more. I have been caught unguarded a few times and waving hands frantically to express a vague point hasn’t been the most professional thing. If I were to blame anyone, it would be Comfort. I am reluctant to point a finger because I am grateful, but when Comfort comes too often, she starts bringing Sloth along. And Sloth, be warned, is a fox who so easily convinces you that hanging out with him is the right thing. Sloth usually starts the party and never leaves. I remember the song about a certain hotel that said you can check out any time you like but you can never leave.




In the latter half of December, I vividly recall how scared I was behind the wheel facing a road completely covered in white. This was in Jeolla province, the food bowl of Korea and a place with sprawling rice fields and stunning landscape. I had taken my folks to the traditional town of Jeonju with its beautiful Hanok village and saw the old temple at Geumsansa. My folks were seated at the back of the car, oblivious to my fears because the white was beautiful and they were looking out of the window. I got the adventurous blood from my mother, whose idea it was to get out of Seoul at the earliest opportunity because she was keener on seeing rural Korea. I was glad to see her enjoy the snowfall even though she clearly didn’t heed my pleas to bring warm clothes aplenty. My dad got tired of the snow and the cold after the first few days, preferring to sit and read inside the warm confines of my apartment. My siblings and I frequently recall the knack our father has of shooting off witty one-liners to any and everyone. I recall how people from the villages, young and old, would visit and they would invariably be treated to a short sermon before anything else. Thousands of miles away, I was glad to be able to enjoy my father’s one liners which are best when he’s a little irritated. On a query from me if he’d like to see more palaces in the extremely cold weather, he said he’d be compelled only if the king was still there.

I drove slowly, knowing the brakes would not hold if I went too fast, and took a detour to the west coast. We reached Gunsan, spent a while at the coast and drove north through many smaller, quieter towns. My father said it reminded him of First Blood and I pictured the quiet, sleepy town in which John Rambo gets tormented by a crude sheriff. Korea is well connected and there are good roads reaching the last house even in these small towns. Simply, the importance of good roads cannot be overemphasized. I remembered my own North-east India and wondered if we were ever going to see permanent roads such as these. I wonder if it’s so basic that it’s taken for granted. Or maybe we are just so used to bad roads that we don’t care anymore. Talking about the roads back home is like talking about the weather- small talk, little significance, good to pass time and escape uncomfortable silences. It’s basic because a good road connects places, cutting costs and increasing access. When I’m driving in Korea, I’m also imagining myself driving through an uninterrupted highway from India’s North-east to Myanmar and to the beaches of Thailand. Every forty to fifty kilometers, there are designated places for rest and relief, complete with restaurants, convenience stores and coffee counters. It’s nice to see families getting out of their four-wheel drives and getting a meal or a coffee. On the weekend, the highways get choked because most Koreans are on the road going somewhere. Connectivity increases options.

I was surprised to see the connectivity at Jeju-do, with excellent highways crisscrossing the length and breadth of the island. I now know that driving is a better option and I’d rent a car or take mine the next time I go to climb Hallasan. Fortunately, the kind English speaking taxi driver we had hired for the three days told us many stories and recommended well. An outdoor person, I preferred the natural destinations in Jeju to the man-made parks. For my top three in order of wonder, I place Yongmeori Coast first, Seongsan Ilchulbong ‘Sunrise’ peak second, Manjanggul Lava Cave third. At Yongmeori, I was excited to be at the place where the first Europeans landed in the 17th century, courtesy a shipwreck, led by Hendrick Hamel who later wrote arguably the first book on Joseon Dynasty.

Almost every natural site is beautiful and unique, with Jeju’s volcanic past. The heavy snowfall on Mt. Halla disabled the chance to climb otherwise that’s usually the top on every tourist list.  Fonder memories come from the long walks along the Seogwipo coast with my folks watching the sun set over the sea like a painting, and conversations over the seedless Jeju oranges. Before I left Jeju Island, which awakened in spurts the romantic in me, the kind Mr.Baek who played host for the duration of our stay told me he would like to see me with my wife the next time. He was grinning, ‘It will be a different experience.’